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What were getting wrong about dating, according to a Kinsey scientist
In 2026, it’s difficult to detangle love with tech, given the rise of dating apps and now AI. But an evolutionary biologist doesn’t think it’s changed the fabric of how relationships form.
“I think that these technologies are becoming more popular and more pervasive and more advanced, but they’re still not at a place where they’re overturning four million years of evolution in terms of our desire to form intense bonds,” said Dr. Justin Garcia, executive director of the Kinsey Institute, in an interview with Mashable.
Garcia is the author of the just-released book The Intimate Animal, all about the science behind sex and love. He sat down with Mashable to discuss AI, dating apps, and Gen Z daters — just in time for Valentine’s Day.
AI relationships as ‘training wheels’
Singles are using AI in different ways to date. Some use it to optimize their photos and bios, while others skip over human relationships entirely and date AI. In a survey last year, AI companion company Joi found that eight out of 10 Gen Zers would “marry” an AI.
Garcia sees AI as somewhat helpful if you think of it as “training wheels” — if you want a bit of advice or want to build confidence and practice.
“The thing about training wheels is the best case, you take them off at some point,” he said.
There are elements of a relationship that aren’t replicated in chatting with an LLM (as of this publication, anyway — who knows what advances can be made). One that Garcia identified is the reciprocal nature of relationships. “Part of what we want in a relationship is ‘I want to do good things for you. I want you to do good things for me,'” he said.
The psychology of a couple’s relationship includes the dyadic (consisting of two parts) process of whether you’re growing together and making each other’s lives better. For example, waking up early when you don’t want to and making breakfast for you and your partner.
Three elements of a relationship are me, you, and us, Garcia explained. “I’m not convinced at current that people interacting with these AIs think there’s an ‘us.'”
AI relationships seem more transactional. “If I have a relationship with AI, yeah, it’s going to tell me every day that I’m smart and I’m handsome…there’s something nice about that,” he said, “but do I really think I’m making its life better?” Part of a happy, satisfying relationship is making your partner’s life better.
Pluses and minuses of dating apps
Garcia has worked with Match as a scientific adviser since 2010, but he’s not afraid to be critical of the apps.
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“The challenge with the apps is they’re divorced from how we’ve engaged in courtship for millions of years,” he said. When we meet a potential partner, we want to hear their voice, see their body language, smell them, feel them, know their social network — you can’t get that from an app (OK, maybe their voice if you’re using Hinge’s voice note feature).
That’s not to say apps haven’t been a boon to different groups of people, such as those who are neurodivergent or daters who want something very particular, whether it’s a certain religion or fetish. You can find someone with an app. “That’s so incredible to me, that we have that ability,” he said.
But its positives don’t erase the negatives of dating apps, like distraction, attention, and overoptimization. Ghosting and bad user behavior are other gripes.
And dating app burnout doesn’t exist in a vacuum. People have reported burnout in other areas of life, not just dating, and Garcia sees that as adaptive in some ways to our current political, financial, and environmental climates.
But even with these challenges, courtship has always been a competition, Garcia said, and it wasn’t any more fun 100 or 200 years ago. So the real question of dating apps is, how do we use them better?
“We can think about being more intentional. We can think about filling out our own profiles, thinking about engaging with a profile,” he said. And remember that dating is also a dyadic process, meaning between two people, so more intentional choices are not going through 1,000 people swiping, going on second dates, even though there are other options on your phone.
“Similar to AI, [apps are] tools that we can use. When we let them run the show, we get ourselves into trouble,” Garcia said.
Gen Z daters need to stop self-optimizing
There are other challenges that don’t have to do with dating apps, but might be the fault of technology. Newly published research from Match Group and the Kinsey Institute suggests that young adults want love, but believe they’re not ready for it. Only 55 percent of 18-29 year-olds feel prepared to pursue a romantic relationship, while 80 percent believe they’ll find true love. (This is according to a survey of 2,500 U.S. singles conducted by The Harris Poll between September and October 2025.)
“We’re seeing a generation of people who are too focused on self-actualization.”
“We’re seeing a generation of people who are too focused on self-actualization,” Garcia told Mashable, such as the belief that you have to work on yourself before you enter a relationship.
“You think our ancestors ‘worked on themselves’?” he joked. We, young adults in particular, are focused on the idea that we have to “work on ourselves” in isolation, then show up to a potential date ready. And some self-improvement can happen on one’s own, but Garcia said, “working on yourself happens in the context of a relationship.”
“That relationship is the container for making mistakes and finding yourself and having a trusted co-pilot to pick you up and to support each other,” he said.
Young people might have too much emphasis on “I need to be perfect, and you need to be perfect, and we have to go figure out what we want in a corner,” he said. “I don’t think it’s helpful.”
Match Group’s Human Connections Lab researcher Amelia Miller believes tech plays a role in these feelings among young adults.
“Social media and AI companions are teaching Gen Z that the messiness of human relationships is something to be tamed, not embraced, but vulnerability and friction are essential ingredients of intimacy,” Miller said in the press release for the data. “The self-actualization that Gen Z is seeking out solo is actually unlocked through relationships with others.”
So maybe in 2026, we don’t need more tech to optimize ourselves; we don’t need to optimize at all. Maybe to find love, we need to be a bit more human.
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6 AdultFriendFinder features other hookup sites lack
For 30 years now, AdultFriendFinder has quietly positioned itself as the internet’s premier adult dating site and a go-to destination for singles chasing casual flings and hookups. Their success hasn’t been an accident. They’ve stayed on top of the game, and even survived the emergence of dating apps, by forging a unique identity to help them stand out in an incredibly crowded and competitive field.
If you’re looking to let your freak flag fly, AFF offers you the greatest variety of ways to do it — here are six features AdultFriendFinder has that you won’t find on any other dating site.
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Naked content
One of the first things you’ll discover after creating an AFF account is that the site doesn’t shy away from hosting nudity, nor is it hard to come by. In fact, it’s extremely common for people’s profile photos to contain genitalia or full-frontal nudity rather than the typical headshot you’re likely to find on most other dating sites.
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The nudity isn’t confined to photos, either. You can host videos on your profile, including explicit videos, and there are webcam feeds live at any given time that feature amateur and professional models in various states of undress.
If you find yourself distracted by all of the nudity or just want to browse the site in public without getting arrested, you can turn on the adult content filter by navigating to your profile settings in the top right of the screen, scrolling down to Content Filter and then selecting either No Nudity, Some Nudity or Everything (the default setting, naturally).
Live webcam feeds
There’s certainly no shortage of webcam sites on the internet, but it’s rare to find a dating site that hosts live webcam feeds, not only of professional models but also of regular men and women looking for connection.
Navigate to the Live Action menu at the top of your AFF window and choose between either Member Webcams or Pro Models. Once you’ve made this choice, you’ll be able to create even more specific search filters, including by gender (Men, Women or Trans), Nude or Non-Nude, and even by proximity to you.
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One thing to note, however: while free members can view webcam feeds (including more than one at a time), only Gold members and above can actually chat with models.
Discussion forums, blogs, and group chats
Unlike traditional dating sites, which only seek to match people in one-on-one interactions, AdultFriendFinder encourages group dynamics, especially in their Community section. Here you’ll find not only personal blog posts by AFF users commenting on their experience, sharing stories or posting queries, but also group discussion boards organized around literally hundreds of interesting topics.
Many of these are sexual in nature (there’s a polyamory group, for example, and a “women who like older men” group), but many are organized around interests and hobbies, including politics, tech, travel, movies and music.
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Best of all, you can participate in these communal discussions without having to subscribe to AFF’s Gold membership, which helps to keep these places more lively than they would otherwise be if only paying members could access these spaces.
Erotic stories
Fun fact: erotic fiction now accounts for approximately 25 percent of all fiction sold in the United States, so it’s hardly surprising that erotic writing (“literotica” for those in the know) would be a major draw. What is surprising, however, is how few online dating sites take advantage of it.
AdultFriendFinder members who wish to read or write sexy stories, real or imagined, can navigate to the Community menu and select Stories, where they’ll uncover a near-unlimited array of stories, novels, fan fiction and even erotic poetry.
If you’re feeling adventurous, you can explore the stories at random, but AFF also deploys a clever tagging system that allows you to search by topic, with popular options including First Time, Sci-Fi, TSTV (trans and transvestite), and Voyeur.
Popular stories achieve higher ratings and greater on-site visibility, and popular authors can actually build a large following on the site, so whether you’re eager to read more erotic fiction or aspire to write some, AFF has you covered.
Contests
One of the more fun aspects of AdultFriendFinder is that it genuinely seeks to cultivate a sense of community and actively encourages its users to spend more time on the site, especially in the public-facing sections. Their on-site contests are a fantastic example of this in action.
About once a month, the site hosts a themed photo contest, asking members to submit photos and then allowing the rest of the site to vote on which submissions best reflect or embody the contest caption.
The most recent photo contest theme was “Velvet Secrets: Valentine’s Masquerade,” while prior contests include “Naughty & Nice” for the holidays and “Midnight Mischief.” Winners get a special badge they can display on their profile, as well as tons more profile visibility, so there’s a strong incentive to participate.
To enter, scroll to the Community menu and then find Contests at the very bottom of the options list. If there’s an active contest and you are logged in to your account, you’ll be given the option of participating.
Kink-based profile search
Every online dating site or app has a profile section, where you can fill out pertinent personal information such as your sexual orientation, level of education, and whatever hobbies, interests or special skills you have that might make you stand out from the crowd, but AdultFriendFinder takes things a step further by offering members the opportunity to list their kinks.
If you navigate to your profile name in the top right of your AFF screen and then select Dating Profile and Edit Profile, you’ll have the opportunity to add to your My Kinks section. Popular options here include BDSM, voyeurism and cross dressing, but the full list is far more extensive.
Best of all, these kink lists aren’t merely decorative. If you have a premium account, you can actually search out other members by their chosen kinks, allowing you to find the people in your area who like exhibitionism or have a foot fetish, for example.
There’s no shortage of online dating sites, and even no shortage of hookup-first sites, but when it comes to adult dating, AFF clearly separates itself from the competition with its wide array of kink-friendly features and accommodations.
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Netflix's Hit Fantasy Series Turned A Fan-Favorite Storyline Into Pure Nightmare Fuel
By Jonathan Klotz
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Netflix’s smash hit One Piece live-action adaptation was always going to be compared to the record-setting anime series, but in some ways, it’s improved on the anime. The most obvious improvement is in the pacing, which has been all killer, and no filler. Less obvious is that going live-action provides a sense of weight and realism to even the most absurd action scenes. Then there was Season 2, Episode 5, “Wax On, Wax Off,” when the murderous Mr. 3 took the spotlight and went from an over-the-top supervillain in the original to a disturbing serial killer. Turns out, watching people be encased in wax is a lot more terrifying in live action.
One Piece’s Villains Steal The Show
Mr. 3 is brought to life by David Dastmalchian, who you might recognize from The Suicide Squad, Late Night with the Devil, Murderbot, or Ant-Man. His casting as the Baroque Works agent powered by the Wax-Wax Devil Fruit, which, as the name implies, gives him the ability to generate wax harder than steel, was an inspired pick by the manga’s creator, Oda. Dastmalchian was on fan’s wish lists for the role, and when given the chance, he owned every single second spent on screen.
One Piece’s colorful cast of characters revolves around taking a personality trait and amplifying it to a cartoonish level. Mr. 3’s murderous desire to turn people into artwork that immortalizes their suffering, anguish, and terror over slowly dying encased in wax is straight out of classic horror movies. In the anime, he’s off-putting, but in the series, Dastmalchian’s line delivery, coupled with his creepy smile, turns the absurdity of a giant wax candle covering Nami, Vivi, and Zoro with hardening wax flakes from cartoonish buffoonery into a nightmare.
His Baroque Works partner, Miss Golden Week (Sophia Anne Caruso, from The School for Good and Evil), also has a horrifying power, utilizing different colors of paint to force her victims to experience emotions. She uses yellow to force Zoro to be cheerful, and blue to make Luffy feel the saddest he has in his life (to that point). Mind control is a common superpower but, then you think about it in the context of the real world, it’s one of the most terrifying experiences you can think of. Trapped inside your body, acting against your will as you’re forced to move, think, and feel a certain way? That’s pure Hell.
One Piece Keeps Proving It’s The Best Anime Adaptation
Netflix’s One Piece didn’t bring over Mr. 3’s candle champion ability, but what it does keep intact is that the killer is a complete coward. Mr. 3’s running away at the first sign of an equal fight is a hilarious moment topped only by the very satisfying hammerpunch that Luffy lands on him to put an end to the nightmare. For now, as in the original story, he comes back later with his real name, Galdino, and while he’s not quite an ally to the Straw Hat Pirates, he does recognize when there’s a larger, much more dangerous enemy that needs to be taken down, and Luffy is the only one who can do it.
Thanks to the inclusion of the manga’s author Oda, Netflix’s One Piece adaptation is not only faithful to the source material, it’s the perfect entry point for those curious about the Straw Hat Pirates but scared to tackle the 1000+ episodes of the anime. And sometimes, it might even be a little bit better.
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